Ross and Rachel might have set the bar for the friends-to-lovers trope (though we'd prefer to avoid the infamous "we were on a break" storyline), but in reality, it can be a lot harder to take a relationship from platonic to romantic. Before making a move on your best bud, you'll want to be confident the feelings are mutual—which is where dating coach Jacob Lucas' advice comes in. In a recent video, he shared the five signs your friend secretly finds you attractive. Pay attention to these cues, and your friendship may soon have some new benefits.
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1 You catch them stealing glances at you.
In his TikTok video, Lucas starts out by saying that if a friend or work colleague does any of these five things, "they find you HOT."
The first clue he says to look out for is if you "always catch that person looking at you when they think you are not looking at them."
Of course, they'll want to steal glances because they're attracted to you, but they might also be trying to gauge when a good time is to strike up a conversation or if anyone else is flirting with you.
2 They only like photos of you when you're alone in them.
Posted a photo of yourself on social media looking chummy with another friend or your current partner? Chances are, they won't like it. Posted a selfie? They'll probably be the first to give it a heart or a thumbs up, Lucas says.
Even if it's subconscious, your friend would rather envision themselves in those photos with you than another possible love interest.
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3 They "groom" themselves around you.
A flip of the hair, straightening their tie, adjusting their shirt—if your friend is doing any of these subtle behaviors around you, chances are they're attracted to you.
"You always catch them grooming themselves around you, even when it's just you and them, because they want to look good for you," Lucas explains.
4 They distance themselves when you're in a relationship.
If you're worried that your friend doesn't like your new partner, you may want to consider that they're being standoffish because they're attracted to you.
"Whenever you get into a new relationship with somebody, they always put distance between you and themselves, because they are actually jealous," shares Lucas.
If you're single, this jealousy could manifest in them constantly asking you questions about your love life because they "want to see if they have any romantic competition with anybody else that you talk to," he explains in another video.
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5 They subtly touch you.
Maybe it's a hand on your back when they let you walk through the door first, or perhaps it's a graze of the hand when they pass you a plate.
If your friend secretly finds you attractive, "They will break that touch barrier with you at any opportunity," says Lucas.
Even if they don't get as far as touching, they might also position themselves to face you or make sure they nab the seat next to you. "This is called proximity," notes Lucas in a separate video about attraction.
Dana Schulz Dana Schulz is the Deputy Lifestyle Editor at Best Life. She was previously the managing editor of 6sqft, where she oversaw all content related to real estate, apartment living, and the best local things to do.Read moreFiled UnderDating • Relationship AdviceRead This Next10 Signs You Have Chemistry With Someone
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